I have a question, and I'd appreciate any kind of insight, or comments you can think of.
I apologize for being obscure, as the topic is fairly personal and I'd not giving myself the liberty to divulge, but I would like to know what people think:
CAN YOU HAVE YOUR CAKE AND EAT IT TOO?
Can we have our cake while we eat it too? Is it selfish to do so? Is it right? Does it make cake lose meaning? Is it fair? Is it a personal choice? (wait, of course it is...)
Or, on the other hand, why can't we have both?
I know how weird of a question it is to answer not knowing context, but I'd like to hear responses anyway, if possible....I'll compile a survey for myself..hehe stats, and I'll take it all into consideration. (I heart you guys; thank you for helping)
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Check out the awesome view from the bridge near my home; the building on the left; just parallel to the left blue building is MY home! (I've added this picture to make this posting less treacherous! hugs all around!)
Last week was Halloween; I didn't really write about it, cause it kind of sucked....I was a slice of pizza, which SOUNDS like a cool idea; I made my costume, and it was nice, but the kids didn't really recognize me, so it was kind of a bust. BUT, that's not the only reason...the day before; with all the preparation and all the madness (the english teachers were in charge of the whole celebrations, and there was A LOT of planning to do), I broke down a bit...
It was a combination of a lot of things, but I believe, mostly cause of PMS! haha
It was just a tiring tuesday, and I thought I would be going home right after school to waste time away on the internet....but NO, I ended up having to stay after school until 8:45PM! prepping for the next day's celebrations...and not only that, my co-worker got in a tiff with me...She said something uncool, and I went to another room and lost it. It was weird, cause it wasn't something I would usually lose it over, but I lost it...I was SO tired, and so hurt and so PMS-ing....I just started crying, and even after I spoke about it, and talked to my co-worker, I just kept crying! ...and I didn't know why...(it really was PMS hehe), but anyway, it felt nice to cry like that...I hadn't in a long time.
OK
the reason I'm writing this story (not to make you think anything's wrong; REALLY there isn't anything going on) is to say that between sobs, Elena (my friend) got all freaked out.....
She told me afterwards as she was going out of her way to walk me home, that she got scared cause I said something like "I'm SO tired, I just want to go home" and she thought I meant was that I wanted to go home to Canada. That made me laugh out loud, and I thought OF COURSE NOT! ...I meant home here home! Moscow home...Smolenskaya home!!! She was relieved, but it was then and only then that I realized how much I don't actually want to go home to Canada.
I hope it's not weird for you to read this, for those of you in Montreal, but there really is no where on this earth that I would rather be than RIGHT HERE. My soul screams contentment day in and day out...even when things are shit, I realize it's not all that shitty cause I'm here. I know there will be a time when I crave Montreal again, but I haven't been away for that long yet. Moscow is my home for now, and I wouldn't want it any other way.
BUT (and this is the reason for ALL that wrote in the above paragraphs) there ARE a few things that make me ache over not being in Montreal....
Of course, there are my friends and family (and our new OVEN! ARR! I can't wait to see it! I've been waiting my whole youth for a new oven! no joke! and my parents had to go out and buy one when I'm gone!), but the biggest thing for me is Paul and Katherine.
My friends...my close friends, are having a baby in early December.
SO little makes me want to come home at all...SO very little, but THAT ...it makes me CRY almost that I can't be there to see it happen...or hear about it...or see it...it's SUCH a crazy event, I can't even comprehend. I know that I will get to see them and the baby when I go home during xmas, but I can't help but still feel like I'm missing out on so much. The pregnancy, the birth; the everything!
That's the trade off I guess....I can't be everywhere for everything.
I think my trip home will be interesting. I see it coming so quickly, it's making my head spin!...I just came from a vacation, and I feel like I need another one... I'm not sure what that break did to me...meeting people, seeing Moscow in a different way. It very much changed the dynamic of patey in this city...
ok that's enough about me
hugs for everyone at home....I hope everything is well, and if you want to wish Paul and Katherine a happy pregnancy, you can e-mail me, or write a comment and I'll compile something for them.
lvoelovelvoelovleovleolve
patey:]
OH, and comments on the above are VERY much welcomed. It would help me figure some things out :) hugs for you
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Hi Patey, I'll get back to you on the other stuff, but for now I just have to say...
OMG I totally understand about the oven! My parents waited until just after I left home to get a new one. Wait! More than that...
Our house got it's first EVER electric oven at that time. Previously it had only been a wood-fired stove, and even that was upgraded to a new wood stove at the same time. Enjoy your oven. :D
well of course you CAN have both. you can do anything you want to. however, everyone has varying levels of "conscience" ie that little nagging voice in your head that gauges right and wrong. As you say, it's totally difficult to answer this question without context, but on my behalf i'd have to say that i believe in karma and i believe that any sort of overindulgence usually leads to karma biting you back in the ass.
on a more practical level, i'd say if eating the cake doesn't hurt anyone (including yourself), then why not?
so r u going to give us contaxt at ANY point???
Hello Patey,
Thank you for the kind words. We are thinking about you too, and it is nice to "see" you so excited and jazzed about your Russia experience. You can be sure we will both have a lot to catch up on upon your return to our fair city.
As for the cake and eating it too, I remember a Sex and the City episode on this matter. Though I don't remember what it said, your beginning of the blog sounded reminiscent of Carrie Bradshaw writing her column, and that would be what you would see being typed on the screen... Can you have your cake and eat it to?? ...Cut to commercial... ;)
Sometimes it's better to simply go with the cupcake and share your cake with others.
Hmmm, a tough one...
If the cake is there, and it's available for eating, I say throw caution to the wind and munch it up!
However, keep in mind that too much cake breads a tummy ache, so don't over-indulge.
Hugs!
ok, as promised - having cake!
Well, the 'rule' is "You can't have your cake and eat it too." However, it's clear following rules isn't always the best thing to do. Simply, when a rule seems to impede what the best thing is to do, it usually means we should be cautious.
There is probably a reason for the rule somewhere, so if one feels that it's appropriate to break one it's a good time to pause and think about why you are doing it and why the rule is incorrect for the situation.
So go ahead, but keep your eyes open. *If* something does go wrong you'll feel better if it's something you saw in advance but decided was worth the risk in advance compared to having something that you didn't see bite you instead. Much progress has been made in the world by people continually re-evaluating paradigms. :)
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